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Making Medicine of Contempt; Teachings in Self-Forgiveness

Making Medicine of Contempt; Teachings in Self-Forgiveness

In the past few years, I have experienced the painful intensity of someone’s contempt. This was not a romantic connection, gone sour. It was a layered and complex soul contract, a cherished friendship I had fully imagined would weather the storms and seasons of...

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Grief, Fear, Trauma, and This Love that Meets it All

Grief, Fear, Trauma, and This Love that Meets it All

If you’re inclined to grieve right now, please grieve. Let the deep, sacred waters of grief keep moving through. If you can weep, by all means weep. If you can’t, please know that the weepers are weeping your tears too. If you find yourself infected with fear, please...

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Tending to Our Personal & Collective Heartache

Tending to Our Personal & Collective Heartache

I’ve been especially struck lately by where my personal grief, anxiety, and heartache seem to coincide with that of the collective. Sometimes when I wake at 5:00 AM with anxiety pounding inside my personal heart, it’s so clear that I’m simultaneously tapped into the...

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The Breaking & The Blessing of Mothering Our Teen Girls

The Breaking & The Blessing of Mothering Our Teen Girls

I keep looking at this photo of my daughter, taken a few days ago. Just a mundane moment captured: simple, radiant happiness sourced by new succulents. I mean—could she be any more precious? Arayla’s beauty astounds me every day. Her bright, sweet presence. Her depth...

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It All Comes Down To

It All Comes Down To

It really all comes down to how we choose to navigate this moment. So often I find the best and most honest choice I can choose in this moment is to open wider. Or to listen, or to breathe, or to burn, or to allow, or to let go, or to give thanks, or to tell the...

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Lessons in Prioritizing Soul

Lessons in Prioritizing Soul

A few mornings ago my boy Ezra and I fell unexpectedly out of sync with all of our supposed-to’s, and suddenly found ourselves immersed in a pocket of pure soul sweetness.     I heard him bumping around in the kitchen in the wee hours, fixing himself some breakfast,...

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Holy Moments in The Matrix

Holy Moments in The Matrix

Last night I got to go out on a dinner date with one of my most beloved soul-sisters here in Ashland.     We sat across from one another eating ceviche and avocado with chopsticks. No small feat!     We compared notes and shared stories and laughed more than I’d...

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Letting Love Take Care of It

Letting Love Take Care of It

Recently I went through a challenging relational experience with someone I’d considered a dear friend, and it left my heart feeling raw and trampled. Isn’t it astonishing how each heartbreak we experience can bring to the surface every other unresolved betrayal,...

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To Be Love; To Be Loved

To Be Love; To Be Loved

  That moment this morning, after a handful of hard, tender-hearted days, when my bright, shining sixteen-year old found me praying fervently at the altar, and swooped down beside me, whispering into my ear, “Have I told you lately Mama, how much I love and appreciate...

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“If our love for life remains conditional, based upon us getting our own way or life looking the way we want it to, we remain defended against the slap of life’s ruthless uncertainty.

The degree to which our hearts are guarded and armored against life’s horrors is the exact degree to which we are also closed to its brilliant love, beauty, and joy.”

 

“If we learn how to consciously meet our suffering, then even our suffering is the precise medicine needed to bring us deeper home to life and to love. ” 

“As we learn to open wider to the depth of grief that is here for us—personally, collectively, and globally—we can allow the honest inclusion of our brokenness to bring us home to what’s unbreakable.  ”