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Letting Love Take Care of It
Recently I went through a challenging relational experience with someone I’d considered a dear friend, and it left my heart feeling raw and trampled. Isn’t it astonishing how each heartbreak we experience can bring to the surface every other unresolved betrayal,...
To Be Love; To Be Loved
That moment this morning, after a handful of hard, tender-hearted days, when my bright, shining sixteen-year old found me praying fervently at the altar, and swooped down beside me, whispering into my ear, “Have I told you lately Mama, how much I love and appreciate...
The Simple, Perfect Wisdom of “Help”
“Help” is one of my most favorite prayers. When we can find our way to the voice that remembers how to ask for help, we are more than halfway home. How many times in the last couple of years have I found my way, just in time, back to the altar. Back to the simple...
Vigilance of Self-Love
When I map my own path of self-love, I can see how much of it has been shaped from an honest willingness to see my addictive dance with self-loathing. Isn't it amazing how the very source of our suffering-- when faced directly-- holds the key to our freedom? That...
Opening to the Bad Dream, while Ushering Forth the Good One
At the top of my extremely short list of what I’ve absolutely loved about this global pandemic? My ritualized evening walks with my amazing son, Ezra Star.* Our walks have evolved this past year, alongside the seasons, and our rapidly evolving hearts. Last spring and...
Lessons in Discernment & the Consequences of Self-betrayal
I have made many mistakes in my life, but the most consequential mistakes I’ve made have always involved betraying in some way what I know to be true. These are the mistakes that have delivered essential lessons in discernment, self-respect, dignity and integrity....
The Miracle & Challenge of Forgiveness: A Divorce-Healing Story
“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” —Marianne Williamson Forgiveness is a fearless teacher. It came to me in one of my...
Turning Bare-Chested Towards Loss
This morning, as I awakened alone inside the quiet warmth of my bed, I found myself contemplating the habitual way we brace ourselves against loss. I was considering a dear friend of mine, who is facing a particularly grueling passage of loss, inside a lifetime full...
Refusing to Prostitute Our Muse (a.k.a. ‘The Relevance of Peonies’)
My muse recently returned to me, after an excruciatingly long hiatus. For many, many months I could barely write a word. I felt zero inspiration, no assignments from God, a complete lack of any creative connection between my heart, mind and voice. I could still feel a...
Belonging to Ourselves
All these efforts to somehow crack the codes of life, of adulting, business, parenting, health, money, service, social media algorithms— for what? So that we finally achieve some ultimate sense of security, or impact, or relevance? So we can finally know that we...